tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2356238098880523445.post6110637714487454881..comments2023-05-17T09:11:39.306-05:00Comments on This Heavenly Life -- Messy, Loud, Always Worthwhile: How Do You Motivate Your Kids?This Heavenly Lifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14586469381231517883noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2356238098880523445.post-23671200755134032842012-12-10T12:40:40.920-06:002012-12-10T12:40:40.920-06:00I shot right back here after reading the first sen...I shot right back here after reading the first sentence of today's post - cause, no...somehow I missed this. And I have MANY many thoughts about this...for several reasons. I admit - even this late in life and WITH some pretty healthy self awareness that's developed over the past decade, to still being more extrinsically than intrinsically motivated. Intrinsic is catching up - but oh boy what a battle! I eventually left the church that I worshiped with {and worked for} for over twenty years because I believe they/we had warped spirituality into a very extrinsically motivated lifestyle. AND - because as a parent I was determined NOT to "make" kids that were just like me in this way! This is an uphill battle in a society (academic society included) that has quite the performance orientation. I will quickly say, that with kids, I think developing the inner stuff needs that atmosphere of acceptance that you mentioned. I think we need to be willing to let them fail - especially as they get older - which, let me tell ya, gets harder the older they get...ok off to read today's piece!Adriennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12067468928499906171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2356238098880523445.post-17247796634193302772012-12-05T09:37:58.038-06:002012-12-05T09:37:58.038-06:00I am sitting right beside you in that boat, Kate. ...I am sitting right beside you in that boat, Kate. It's just such a quick fix to motivate them with a treat or even the threat of punishment. But I'm trying to reign in those tendencies!This Heavenly Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586469381231517883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2356238098880523445.post-9760546185139350432012-12-05T09:37:16.279-06:002012-12-05T09:37:16.279-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.This Heavenly Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586469381231517883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2356238098880523445.post-49426748848483394602012-12-04T21:37:25.002-06:002012-12-04T21:37:25.002-06:00Learning about life through business. I like it! :...Learning about life through business. I like it! :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17040658866161039054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2356238098880523445.post-82646078468064015712012-12-04T00:01:49.120-06:002012-12-04T00:01:49.120-06:00I believe so much is what you're saying. The p...I believe so much is what you're saying. The problem is that in the short term, extrinsic motivation is so much quicker and easier. So yes, I offer a treat of some sort now and then, but I certainly praise determination, persistence, dedication and just good old hard work. <br /><br />Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15039712389445193435noreply@blogger.com